Putting on the latest Brazilian Hair, the thickest coat of make-up, or fashioning the sharpest claws that money can buy may not be enough to get you Mr. Successful or Mr. Perfect, whichever you are looking for.
Sadly 99.99% of successful men are already taken because they became successful with their Valentine by their side. So you too can help build one. However, if you are looking for a ready-made man, sadly you have to throw out your mama’s advise to sit and wait for the man to come to you. Do you remember this, “…do not chase men, rather, let men chase you…,” mama warned.
However, Frankline says times have changed and you have to work as hard as a salesman trying to get a new client – nothing good comes easy my dear!
Today, with social media, it’s pretty easy to know a lot about anybody with an account on social media. Find out where your dream Valentine works, where he goes for fun, the events he attends, figure out where you can meet him, approach him, if you are not a salesman like Frankline, here are some lines that you can borrow or steal; “…hi, how are you…my name is Kim, what is your name….may I join your table while waiting for my friends (even though you know that no friends of yours are coming)….I am waiting for a couple of friends if you don’t mind me…, Peter what brought you here today…well my friends seems to be late as always or might change the plan but I appreciate spending the time with you…do you come here often…what do you do for work…of course not throwing yourself at him but have a memorable conversation such that you can tell if he is really what you are looking for, as well as, get to know his ambitions and aspirations, and share with him how you can help him get there, maybe your skill-sets, your stable job that can be insurance for him to forge ahead without any fear, show him how your ideas and network can be of help to him.
Men like attention, don’t be fooled and they have ego, take it! Let him first see you as a good friend who cares and wants him to succeed like men do skillfully when interested in a woman. When people show us care and concern, our hearts always soften into Valentine mode…now you can continue and do what women do very well. Happy V-Day sister!
For those who already have a Valentine, I will say you might not be happy or thinking of leaving. Well, if it is not an abusive man, I will say find a way to make it work because the grass is not as green as you think on the other side. Spice it up, have more time together, talk more, go out more, and do not forget to always appreciate the other partner. Appreciation sounds simple but goes a long way because everybody wants to feel loved and be loved especially on special days like Valentine Day. Happy happy V-Day sister.
If you were not already working with this lady when you were back home, for my brothers who are hunting, I will say don’t go too far to search, there are wonderful women in your city, if you get to know them and give them the opportunity for them to know you. It’s true that “…Dada says do not get married to someone who is not from your tribe or region or country or race”. well, tell Dada that Frankline says gonna those days! The realities on the ground demand a change in approach.
Perfection does not exist, so help your woman to become the lady that you dream of. Going back home to bring Mrs. Perfect may be as good as becoming a woman trafficker, where you just keep bringing women for other people to hmm hmm hmm. Well as you know, most women back home want to come abroad, everyone will accept your proposal, but when they get here, they will then realize that you are not the Prince Charming that they were looking for and you are back to bring the next one, a good women trafficker’eeh. I know there are few successful cases who brings a woman from back home whom they did’t know, and it worked, bro hope you are that damn lucky!
Whether you agree or not with this traditional old fashion Frankline, feel free to share your comments or thoughts.
